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11 Sep 2003 Why do you think its an unhealthy obsession? You love them they love you being with them gives you pleasure and also them. Just because society has its head stuck in the sand and cant tell true BoyLove from paedophilia is not your problem. Joe_uk, 54 ______________________________ Hiya james, Your thoughts are no more an unhealthy obsession, than that of a heterosexual male. Most straight guys think about girls all the time and I have yet to hear one question whether his thoughts are unhealthy or obsessive. It's part of understanding that just like heterosexual males, you too have desires and attractions and love interests and you experience them the same way that these heterosexual males do. Just because the object of your affection is a boy doesn't mean that you experience your attraction any differently. The only harmful aspect is letting your thoughts and feelings prohibit you from having a full and happy life. If you sulk and lament over not being able to fulfill them. If you lock yourself in your room and just involve yourself with your thoughts of boys while losing interest in everything else you enjoy in life, that can be harmful to your wellbeing. I'VE BEEN THERE. Enjoy your thoughts about boys, it's the safest way to express your love for them. Howie, 21 howie@agetaboo.org

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