Seeking is a place where young men can seek answers and reactions to their questions.

The focus of this website is young men and boys (under mid-20s) who are dealing with an attraction to boys under the legal age of consent - in many places 16. Attractions of boys 16+ for other boys 16+, or men, are considered "gay" but different from our focus. Attractions between boys a year or maybe two years apart are legal in many places, but might bring up issues of underage attractions depending on the feelings of those involved. Contributions are welcome from all, but we ask that they stay on topic.

Answers given by our readers are based on their own particular situations, perspectives, and experiences. They may help you to see things in a new way, or give you ideas on how to handle certain issues. On the other hand, keep in mind that they may not apply to your specific situation.

While this is not a place to meet other teens, we will provide email addresses, with permission, to other boys requesting them, at our discretion. We will not, however, publish them. All email addresses should be "safe".

New visitors: browse through index of questions.

Questions				Answers
Name	Age	Question	Date	#	Most recent reply
Matthew	20's	My parents forbid me from discussing my attractions.	26 Feb 11	1	Drakar	12 May 11
Joel	12	I can get in trouble if I get porn of kids my age.	31 Aug 10	0
Mario	20	I won't be able to control my urges with a younger boy	17 Aug 10	0
Zachary	14	"You'll be sleeping with my little brother, silly!"	2 Aug 10	0
Jordan	16	I was lusting after my 10 yo best friend	23 Jul 10	0
Kit	23	Should I make love to my 13 yr old friend?	9 Nov 09	5	David	19 Feb 11
Junior J	14	Find pornography of people my own age?	25 May 09	3	Crane	23 Mar 11
Justin	14	It was the only time I felt I was important.	26 Apr 08	0
Elmin		Are you advocating pedophilia?	7 Sep 07	1	Cody	8 Aug 09
Tim		Is this site for real? Safe? I'm afraid.	10 Aug 07	1	Cody	8 Aug 09
Mike	20	Younger teens going after older teens?	19 Jul 07	5	Xaeyious	15 Nov 09
David	20	Getting over what treatment did to me	11 Jul 07	2	Andrew	2 May 08
Bob	15	Find others my age to share feelings with	27 Jun 07	4	Robert	13 Aug 09
Kevin	17	Fantasies about sex with boys... Wrong?	9 Jun 07	3	Stan	12 Sep07
James	16	Where does it come from?	6 Jun 07	1	Cody	22 Jul 07
SoSexy	17	Straight male likes prepubescent boys	1 Jun 07	11	Drakar	12 May 11
"I"	26	I downloaded porn from the internet.	23 May 07	3	Shawn	10 Nov 07
Shane	15	So how do I find out if he likes me?	19 May 07	1	Jake	8 Nov 07
Snakeyes	35	Is it wrong to be attracted to young boys?	27 Apr 07	1	Cody	15 Jul 07
"Me"	14	Friends with boys, older BL, girlfriend. Help!	7 Apr 07	1	Jamie	17 Apr 07
Jonty	23	How do I improve my self control?	31 Mar 07	1	Cody	18 Apr 07
Joe	23	I hate myself so much it hurts inside.	19 Mar 07	1	Matsuri	16 Apr 07
Maty	19	What I should do to minimize these urges?	17 Feb 07	0
Adam	15	I feel like a monster but I know I'm not.	10 Feb 07	1	Tony	24 Oct 07
Graeme	28	Boys sportswear - wrong to look?	23 Oct 06	1	Steve	24 May 07
Justin	21	For fear of being labeled a pedophile	18 Oct 06	1	Dr.	24 Apr 07
Anon		Is there "therapy" for boylove?	11 Oct 06	1	Jon	27 Apr 08
FrankF	17	I feel sex is nasty. Masturbation is safer.	11 Oct 06	0
Matt		Is "incest" among young brothers illegal?	05 Oct 06	1	Cody	18 Oct 06
Danny	25	My 6 yo brother accused me of abuse.	30 Sep 06	1	Jonty	23 Mar 07
Joe	13	I'm sorta involved with an older guy.	26 Sep 06	2	Shiro	01 Sep 06
Pete	33	I struggle liking young boys, feel isolated.	17 Sep 06	2	Maty	18 Feb 07
Maddox	15	I just want to live a normal life.	27 Aug 06	3	kidshady	13 Jun 08
Repdetect	23	No girlfriend, people are starting to wonder.	17 Aug 06	1	Cody	1 Sep 06
Lance	21	I am just as confused and angry as ever.	30 Jul 06	1	Cody	1 Sep 06
Nick	21	I fall for boys at least 9 years younger.	29 Jul 06	4	Shawn	10 Nov 06
Boaboy	21	Should I work in a children's home?	15 Jul 06	3	Coif	10 Feb 07
Shiro	23	How do the age of consent laws work?	19 Jun 06	4	Shawn	10 Nov 06
Cody	17	"Who can I talk to?" Who can you trust?	17 Jun 06	5	Forget	12 Aug 09
Jason	46	A curse, or something positive?	9 Jun 06	2	Shiro	16 Jun 06
Andy	17	Feelings of being molested; being a BL?	26 May 06	3	Boaboy	15 Jul 06
Vince	15	How do you get a boy to notice you?	15 May 06	1	Cody	17 May 06
Vince	15	How can i stop the self hate?	12 May 06	2	Cody	17 May06
Andy	17	Is It Ever Okay To Use Child Porn?	9 May 06	5	Spoonsh..	19 Jul 06
Christophe	20	How can I live?	16 Apr 06	2	Spoonsh..	1 Aug 06
john	21	I just wish i had some one to talk to.	18 Jan 06	2	bobby	5 Apr 06
*****	19	I don't know if I'm a boylover.	12 Dec 05	3	Snakeyes	27 Apr 07
Marc		I'm desparate.	27 Nov 05	1	Matthew	29 Nov 05
Matsuri	26	I've lost my best friend. What do I do?	6 Oct 05	2	Matsuri	16 Apr 07
Basit	22	How can I tell my family?	10 Sep 05	0
krkxx	27	Is it okay to have a boylover friend?	2 Sep 05	0
Chelel	16	When can we legally be together?	3 Aug 05	0
Lost	15	Is there something wrong with me?	28 Jan 05	3	Les	27 Jul 05
Bobby	19	Seeing boys in underwear get me in trouble?	17 Jan 05	0
Nick	15	Anything I can do to stop being a BL?	9 Jan 05	6	Snakeyes	27 Apr 07
Donald	19	Can't have a relationship; lost and helpless.	3 Jan 05	3	Daniel	19 Oct 05
Fred		Discussing adult/youth sexual encounters?	7 Dec 04	1	Matthew	8 Dec 04
Kty	17	Explain the age of consent for new york.	30 Nov 04	2	Vinny	17 Sep 05
Skyler	20	How did your YF relationship come about?	25 Nov 04	1	Cody	8 Dec 04
Andrew	20	Did you have an AF you were sexual with?	26 Oct 04	0
Tristan	17	How do I understand my weird orientation?	22 Oct 04	1	Matthew	30 Oct 04
Josh	19	Wanting to talk with somebody in real life	24 Sep 04	7	Adam	28 Mar 06
Jiji	19	I love little boys, what can I do for this?	18 Sep 04	2	Andrew	26 Oct 04
Lance	19	I think I am a boylover. I am very unhappy.	22 Jul 04	4	Kyle	13 Mar 06
Ahmed	23	Why do boys leave me?	26 May 04	3	amanda	25 Sep 05
Dave	41	Is age of consent same as being a minor?	11 May 04	3	Kid	16 Jul 06
Jasper	23	Are sexual fantasies about boys wrong?	31 Mar 04	2	fntm	13 Apr 04
Falcon	24	Pictures of boys in speedos	9 Mar 04	7	donald	5 Oct 05
Asianboi	18	Scared that someone will notice	29 Feb 04	1	fntm	19 Jun 04
Ahmad	28	Arabic country...	3 Feb 04	2	rony	2 Jun 05
Michael	19	Problems controlling myself	30 Jan 04	3	Donald	3 Jan 05
Espen	23	End it, hurt him?	10 Jan 04	4	Espen	18 Mar 04
Kevin	29	How is it?	5 Jan 04	2	FireFox	12 Apr 04
Robby	15	Should I say something?	6 Nov 03	4	Jim	11 Sep 04
David	28	Looking at legal pics	26 Oct 03	7	chris	16 Jan 06
Francis	21	Is befriending a young child illegal?	11 Oct 03	4	Cody	17 Oct 03
Flik	18	How do I break it off?	3 Oct 03	4	Ryan	9 Nov 03
Pete	?	How do you cope with it?		7	Cordenas	11 Nov 03
Andrew	23	Why can't I say what I feel?		3	Gary	17 Oct 04
Joey	23	Would it be wrong?		5	Jack	24 Jun 04
Alfonso	19	How do you deal with the longing?		3	Steven	25 Oct 03
Michael	19	How can I be happy?		1	Alfonso
James	24	An unhealthy obsession?		2	Joe_uk	11 Sep 03
Dustin	18	Are my feelings evil?		10	Pat	28 Dec 03

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